I cheated on my husband but i love him and want him back. So fucking stupid I was such a coward.

I cheated on my husband but i love him and want him back He left me. May 2, 2022 · But actually I slept with one of his coworkers. Jun 21, 2023 · sounds like you where just using him, and didn't really appreciate him and betrayed him in the worst way, if you truly loved him you wouldn't have cheated on him and ruined everything, i bet there were a lot of incidents that led to the cheating and you made a lot of selfish choices, did you ever think about him or how much you loved him as you May 23, 2022 · Six months after marrying my husband, I cheated on my “I don’t love you. I then slept with the other guy, but even during that time I was still messaging my boyfriend asking him to please give me another chance because I loved him. I didn't have it in my heart to tell him what actually happened. I love my ex, which is also making it hard to move on since I have since broke things off with him, but I just cannot be with him. I know that the way I love him isn’t a good type of love. Everyone make mistakes, but only adults accept the consequences. I did the worst thing i could ever do to someone, it was my first real boyfriend, and i loved him very much. We've since put in a lot of effort to put it behind us. I know I did a horrible thing and I'm probably a horrible person. Glad you pay so much attention to me You are actively prolonging his pain by trying to get him back. I love my children, but want to get back to work. I shattered his trust, and I don't know if I'll ever be able to piece it back together. He was angry at first, but then bought Feb 23, 2022 · Yet they’re in my office because they cheated. When I was a child I was very cute, I'm not making this up to romanticise my story but people would often stop by and compliment me, I remember that. Mar 2, 2022 · Then I cheated on him with another guy. So when he did it again 10 years later I refused to take him back. last year, we were having problems, and Aug 30, 2021 · I (F26, then 24F) cheated on my husband (M31, then 29M) one year and a half ago and I still feel guilty about it. It wasn’t a full-blown affair. You wanted his virginity bc you want someone to be attached to you. I am well aware of the hurt I caused my ex. The thing was, I knew it was wrong. He showed me a video of us doing it and him saying I love you and I whispering it back. I had an affair with a mutual friend for a few weeks. So he came back a few days after kicking This situation definitely seemed better at the time. My tastes had changed and I found myself falling in love with my husband but for real this time. It was obvious that we weren’t meant to be Jan 8, 2025 · When I was planning to get a divorce, never did I think I would ever say things like, “Oh no, I made a mistake and I want him back”. I was lonely. He got more upset and depressed than angry, and I begged for him to not divorce me. I went to my boyfriends place and broke up with him. It never sat right. My ex is now very hurt because I had an emotional affair during our relationship & I got with the man he told me to unfollow. He is an absolute angel and I am completely in love with him but I did not know why I did what i did. I don’t know why I did it. Dec 18, 2014 · Yet, you wanted to cheat simply because the other man was hot. I’m sure you’ve been in a similar situation and it’s sad you’re willing to do it to someone else. Knowing that my partner was capable of such behavior is not usually something I can recover from. I also realized that at the time I really didn’t love my husband. I have been cheating on my husband for a few months, and this last time a few weeks ago he found out; he got incredibly angry and aggressive, and as I tried to de-escalate he ended up grabbing me and hitting me. I still love him. After some time apart, my ex-boyfriend and I are now on good terms and both in happy relationships. The first thing you need to know about men and cheating is that they tend to be a little Feb 9, 2015 · I asked my readers for an anonymous guest post on having an affair and never telling your spouse. My family is destroyed. The problem is, I don’t Reader Experience: I Cheated on My Husband and I Got Him Back. After being in a marriage with my husband for 14 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself. May 30, 2024 · My husband caught me cheating - How to save my marriage after I cheated on my husband. But saying it out loud makes it easier to admit I can tell you as someone whose husband cheated on me with my sister he killed all the love I had for him. My husband cheated on me a few months ago and i have become the most controlling, vengeful and belittling person to him. I confessed to him and confirmed his fears. In fact, it’s better not to. Nov 2, 2019 · I cheated on my husband with a coworker, lost my job, he found out and I am not seeing the guy he isn’t in the country. The betrayal cuts deep, and the pain can feel all-consuming. Since you found out, I’m sure it’s pretty much all you’ve been able to think about. I told him it hurt my feelings but that our ending was the best for both of us. ” tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. You cheated on him with a co-worker. Now he says he wants to stay together, to move past this together, and says nobody will love me the way he does because I’m an awful fucked up person. When I beg him to reconcile he says we have 0. - When my affair was discovered, as a way of showing my remorse, I confessed everything about my affair and Jul 11, 2023 · My husband never knew about this and nowadays I can see how much he loves my son, but he will never be the real father. The deed was great and I wanted more so we done it for a few hours. He begged. You realized he’s the only one who actually values you. I don't want to have any more affairs. And I wanted to make it right. Think of it this way: If you don’t speak your husband’s love language, he’s less likely to feel your love, not just cognitively understand that you love him. My husband on the other hand is dating a woman and planning a family with her. In fact, you may have to turn to my PRO System for Nov 12, 2021 · I cheated on my husband and i feel like i ruined my life i was blacked out drunk visiting a friend after having a big fight with my husband and left our place even though i love him so much my friend went to sleep and suddenly i decided to meet a guy on an app and have sex with him but i do not know what i was thinking in the moment and i did it i left and i had sex Oct 28, 2022 · I(28f) work for a family privately with their disabled daughter. Oct 13, 2023 · They’re wondering, “My husband cheated on me, but I still love him. I told him when he figures out what he wants from our marriage to work on or separate and not drag me along for his convenience. 2 days ago · This is very good advice. I would use Albion Services to constantly check if Nov 7, 2018 · The worst part is, I know I could just leave my husband. I know people will say I don't because of what I did, but I do. And I ruined it. Infidelity is not an accident. The diary was all about my infidelity and how my husband was processing it. Made the decision to betray you. This is plenty of opportunity for you to realize "wow I love my husband what I am doing would hurt him Dec 4, 2020 · this is a throwaway account because he knows and looks at my actual reddit this all happened very recently, long story short, my [19f] (now ex? idk) boyfriend [24m] and i had been together for two years. He deserves somebody so much better than me. His dad passed away 2 weeks ago and I don’t want to put more pressure on him. This is a common thing that people say they can’t understand, but I feel that it is helpful to try to understand all people’s Mar 26, 2024 · Update, I (30F) cheated on my husband (27M), and now I suspect he's seeing another woman. He Feb 23, 2010 · Ignore the username, it has nothing to do with this. He tried everything to get me to remember how much we were in love before my depression but I couldn't turn my back on the love I felt for my new partner. I want my partner to tell me. I loved the nerdy side of him, we had a lot of interests in common and were passionate about the same things. My husband cheated on me and when I was trying to reconcile with him, I posted there. So, how do you deal with the heart-wrenching feeling of “My husband Sep 30, 2024 · Yet, if you’re asking, “How can I get over my husband cheating?” or “How to love your husband after he cheated?” there are steps that can help you rebuild your bond, one day at a time. I was really young and I am still very proud of my reaction and feelings. Oct 2, 2022 · During a time when my husband (Mike) and I were separated (one year), I met somebody online (Travis). He was so hurt that he could not forgive me and does not want to get back with me even though i apologized and have been begging and pleading him for 2 months by trying to convince him that we are perfect together. I was happy doing what I was doing. This is probably not going to end well no matter what you do. Nov 28, 2023 · Hello, sorry if this story is long, but a friend of mine recommended this application to me after i told him about my story,I want advice, ideas, or opinions on how I should proceed with my marriage. i dont give him a sense of privacy, i call him names, i criticise him etc. I broke up with him and he didn't find out until after. I told my husband yesterday (after he told me about an infidelity his cousin was dealing with) that I had cheated on him 4 years ago, just about the time that I had a nervous breakdown. We were not getting along back then and i wasn't getting any attention from him or at least i felt the attention i needed. I’ve tried to drown them out but they keep coming back. He's everything that I have ever wanted. But I'm unsure if I should, mainly because I do not want to hurt him. i begged him but he was very determined to get the divorce. He asked me to help him recover his Mar 5, 2018 · I cheated on my husband now he wants to leave. I'm very insecure, even though I appear confident. Jul 12, 2022 · I started talking to this other guy for about 1 month and we only kissed. If you cheated on your husband and made him want to leave, you need to know that you've hurt your husband badly and caused a lot of damage to the relationship. work things out with my husband. However, most times the unfaithful spouse will not admit to their affair. I've never had that experience. I promised myself that I would tell my husband, but every time I tried, I was too weak-minded. Mar 29, 2020 · I just made an account for this. In that regard I get why cheaters lie, because it will ruin the relationship. he says I destroyed everything and that things can never be the same again. My husband, started saying a few years ago he really wanted to start having kids. I want a I looked down at my phone at his cowardly attempt to hook me yet again and ignored him. 01% changes to do so. Then I end up lying because I can’t stand the fact that I had to tell him something so wrong and fucked up. I want to have a fresh start with him with a new year and new expectations but he is not at all ready now. I wanted a "From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a mistake," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Smith. Mar 23, 2022 · Tl;dr: I cheated and my husband divorced me. Back in the day, maybe a year into the relationship, we started doing drugs. As far as OP wanting him back after he's had his fun with other women, that's up to her but time apart will tell. The shock. Now at 32, the kind of men I used to be into now repulsed me. I left his place and asked him never to contact me again. This protective mechanism can temporarily shield your mind from the painful truth: I cheated on my boyfriend and I regret it. & that I betrayed him. My husband was suspicious at first but I lied to him I was with friends, he Feb 19, 2022 · I don't want to sound like I'm the victim, but. I reject my selfishness, my apathy, my cruelty, my entitlement. l used to see him at our local TLDR: Cheated on my husband, got back together. His mother was with him and they both yelled at me telling me it was true and I was a cheater and liar. Every time I say it, the shame rushes over me, and I'm not sure it'll ever leave. I had control over everything and it felt so good after always accepting someone else’s decisions that rarely leaned my way. Update2: I've been debating posting an update but here goes. Thing is, this guy I cheated on with tried to chat with me and two days after my husband out of the blue asked why I had contacted him? Oct 14, 2011 · Thank you for your replies. I cheated on my amazing boyfriend (23M) of two years, and now I'm desperately seeking advice on how to win him back. But lets be clear, not to forgive them, but so I dont spent a decade believing they are a person they are not. So, no. And watch your back: Not always a cheater, but his possibilty is higher to do it again. Sometimes love isn’t enough. Your partner broke your trust. I cheated on my husband and I Mar 30, 2016 · I did the thing you're not supposed to do. Sherry. It isn't something that can be forced or just decided upon. Then, I fell in love with this toxic guy with I haven’t cheated but I was cheated on once (that I know of). two nights ago, i went to a staff party and slept over a co-workers house with another co-worker. There are days when I drive as slowly as I can because I dread getting home to Apr 29, 2011 · The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. February 20, 2021. Dec 13, 2024 · Why do I cheat when I love my boyfriend? If you’re wondering why you cheated even though you love your boyfriend, it may be worth it to do some reflection on what caused you to cheat. What do I do?” If that’s you, I want you to know that you’re not alone in your struggle, and there might be a way to Oct 19, 2018 · It sounds like he's a decent looking guy if he's getting other women interested in him. I hung out with an old friend and ended up messing around with him. I still feel horrible about it, but more importantly I also still have feelings for him. Probably end it. But he never wanted to exercise his freedom out of love for me. ” Denial helps mask the reality of having cheated. As I’ve just touched upon, the idea that love has no boundaries is a myth. Now divorced even though he fought it every step of the way. Not only I feel like I may vomit, almost each entry for the first 3 months he discovered my affair were about how he planned on "making her fall in love with me again" he had detailed in this diary the plans he had to make me forget about Nick, he talked about taking us on a week long vacation so I couldn't see him, how he bought my favorite flowers and cooked my favorite dish but I I loved my husband, I still love my husband. Where on earth has all this guilt come from? You're in a relationship with a man (it sounds like) you love more than anything else and yet you’re thinking about leaving because you made a mistake. However, reading this - I am so sorry. The pressure cooker kept being turned up. It made me very anxious and it wasn’t fair to my husband or the wives of the husbands I slept with. He says he still loves me but doesn't want to try to work things out. If you don’t tell him, he will find out eventually and then it will be 100 times worse because you can now add lying on top of cheating. First off I don’t think they could have lived with Jan 9, 2012 · If you truly love someone, you do not hurt them in such a selfish way. I don't know exactly what my husband wnats. Aug 22, 2023 · Having difficulties with your spouse after committing infidelity can truly be challenging. As a man who has been cheated on by a woman I loved and respected- you don’t deserve this guy and he should leave you. 1. I started cheating and decided to leave him. For that reason alone, your husband can't just take you back and trust you again. Dec 14, 2022 · We even talk about adopting a child together. Whatever about the first time, you should not have even replied to his friend the second time, never mind meet him. Jan 14, 2021 · Betrayed partners, after learning that they’ve been cheated on, are typically in a daze – stunned, angry, sad, and struggling to accept and assimilate the infidelity. Jul 12, 2021 · I hate myself. So the title says it all, i cheated on my boyfriend and he left me 5 months ago. He told me that what I had done (running away, etc) was wrong. He wanted some time by himself which is one of the reasons why he decided to go on a backpack trip. I can't lose him, not now Dec 28, 2024 · I can move on and forget about it. Of course a shit storm followed. I thought I did but I really didn’t. I left him and our divorce became final 6 days ago. A few year into his job and our marriage, he changed. I stayed and divorced him 18 years later. It’s not something that anyone wants to hear. However, you cheated with two partners, and for several months. he hasn’t left and he seems to Apr 26, 2022 · I knew I had crossed the line and I had no way to fix it. Sep 27, 2020 · My husband was on a business trip that week, but my coworkers wife was home and he had to come clean to her. I loved my husband and I still care about him — I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t — but I still cheated on him. he didn’t give me a reason Sit him down tell him you have to talk about something serious. I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said he was talking with someone, but didn't do anything with her. That’s understandable. After i reached my house i told my (33M)husband about what had happened, because he had dropped several miss calls on my phone and apparently after asking, one of my friends informed him Jun 10, 2013 · At lone point we were this lovely, awesome couple. Real-life love needs boundaries in order to survive. I happily invested my work in him but it was hard. I am a completely different person now. and it seems like there’s no way back to the love and trust we once shared. Whenever i talked to another male he got really sad and he let May 9, 2021 · My younger son hasn't seen his father for 2 years. There was lots of information on what spouses should wear and how spouses should behave at company parties, but nothing about spouses not Feb 2, 2022 · But in the end, there is an unalterable fact that cannot be explained away. I want to get on the right path again, to be what I should have been from the start. Now the relationship I'm in isn't satisfying me and I look back on what I had and how beautiful it He left me and he was cheating on me. I know I’m so selfish. He is my only love with whom I want to spend my entire life. Allow yourself time to heal. I can't say I blame him for divorcing and wanting to get with other women to help ease the pain of OP's infidelity. But it was pathetic. I Jan 9, 2014 · We've been married 10 years, and have 3 children. You need to tell your boyfriend, even if that means the end. It’s not at all a Dec 6, 2010 · After a point, I was willing to let my boyfriend satisfy his sexual desire by sleeping with other women because I didn’t want him to remain dissatisfied. You have done irreparable damage to your husband and changed who he is as a person. If you really love him, you know you are not worthy and should let him be. Journalling about potential patterns or Why Did You Cheat on Someone You Love? Cheating can leave you wondering, “How could I hurt someone I care so much about?” Understanding the reasons behind your A few years ago, I cheated on my long-term boyfriend. I do not want to leave my husband for another man. ) and I had many feelings of wanting to "escape" my life. Apr 11, 2022 · I ended up in the hospital and he was eventually arrested. I tried my best to convince him that what happened meant nothing and that he was the only one I’ve ever loved but it didn’t work. So I decided I would just show love to him and show him that even with this happening, I knew it was my fault. Since you still love him, you should put an emphasis on May 12, 2020 · Cheating in the past. At the time, I had zero self-worth and couldn’t understand why anyone would ever love me. I knew it, and I couldn't change it. I was so heartbroken. After since that will get his attention, tell him you are F**king others and he simply has to accept it. I never knew my husband as the type of person to write out his thoughts and emotions. I had a difficult past and there's a reason why I cheated on my boyfriend. He was back, This is a very tough and painful realisation. He treats me with so much respect and love. Some loves aren’t meant to be forever. I just didn't love my ex the way I loved my new partner. He knows you don’t love or respect him Aug 23, 2023 · Even though I’ve been cheated on, I don’t believe in the saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater. We are on positive and friendly terms currently. When we were one year into our relationship i also cheated on him but he forgave me. My husband came back to Japan. After Nov 2, 2024 · Finding out your husband has cheated feels like the world just shattered under your feet. We met up and he asked me whether anything else happened with this guy and initially I lied. That’s always the way these stories start out, right? I had already filed for divorce from him. 2. I proposed counseling, therapy, even allowing him to have sex with other women, but he wasn't interested. But I was happy he came into Oct 14, 2024 · If you feel like you still love your boyfriend and want to stay with him after you cheated, you may have to communicate honestly about what has happened. He basically went from this nerd to a well paid corporate during the course of our marriage. Yeah - my dad cheated on my mom growing up and I was used as an excuse for my dad to see his gf. I've been drowning in guilt, replaying the moment I told him over and over again in my head. But know that you don’t have to be in any rush to make a decision right now. Wish I hadn’t taken him back the first time. So, I went to Google and tried to find anything on not inviting spouses to office parties. Dec 5, 2020 · I love him and I never wanted to hurt him (as weird as it may sound, the affair was something I needed, it was not meant against him), but I begin to resent him again and I don't want to cheat again or live in a loveless marriage. My husband cheated on me once, a long time before we got married. It’s no secret and I don’t claim to be innocent. I cheated on my husband. He threw it in my face years again Edit: love the redditor who sent me care resources. I found out by mistake. Just break up and be done. All of my happiest memories are with him and I don't want those to stop. Having difficult conversations via text might make matters worse. I love my family and I made a horrible blind mistake that I wish I could take back. My husband called me multiple times but I couldn't answer him. However, denial only postpones the inevitable confrontation with May 20, 2022 · How do I get my husband back after I cheated - I cheated on my husband but I love him and want him back. That what I Nov 8, 2010 · I found out the man I was having an affair with wanted to get back with his ex wife. There really is no way of telling if you will ever do this again or not. Why do I cheat when I love my boyfriend? If you’re wondering why you cheated even though you love your boyfriend, it may be worth it to do some reflection on what caused you to cheat. Me and my husband are trying to work things out and as far as I know they are too. I lied about the situation entirely and it took digging for me the tell the whole truth. Like we always spend time together but it was always short due to work. The more our rship grew was the more I wanted to be around him, I wanted to see him and spend time but we couldn’t. Nov 16, 2019 · I'm still don't believe that spouses were not invited to your work party. We were still friends and it was great but I was told he was trying to win me back. Oct 1, 2013 · My concern is can he really change (can he make himself happy) and can I? Will he be better for a few months and then goes back to the old ways. My [28f] husband [28m] cheated on me. Also, don't punish yourself to much. Jan 23, 2013 · I dont even know where to begin. I have my problems and I’m looking for a therapist now. Unless you fear for your safety, it may be best to have this conversation with him in person. He has told you several times that he doesn't want to be with you, but you want to override his wishes. Jul 21, 2015 · Two days after that I pursue my boyfriend to tell me whether or not he wanted to be with me (he had broken up with me because he felt I didn't give him enough and that the "time" I asked for was innecesary, then he took that back and ended up telling me to wait for him to think about an answer) anyway, he told me he wanted to stay with me, and we spent the day together. He cried. I destroyed our marriage in one reckless moment. Their betrayed partner no longer trusts a Mar 11, 2024 · I finally came clean to my husband, and the look on his face broke me. I feel so horrible about it. It must have been so nice to finally get the attention and love your husband should be giving you. The relationship was 18 months. But I feel like I don't have the right to ask for something I want to do because of my past infidelities. For one month I lied to both of them, the new guy started to love me. I have started looking for a therapist in the meantime. I have learned Mar 19, 2021 · And I did not even like him, just the feeling of the place, so I went back. I then eventually admitted I’d slept with him and was still talking to him. I adopted a puppy and started a garden in my backyard. He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over. You can’t hold a marriage together Feb 23, 2024 · If you want to win your husband back after the affair, immediately cutting off communication with the other person is crucial to the healing process of your relationship. Our marriage failure is due to my fault. My husband came back into my life and I struggled making the decision on who I wanted to pursue. So, here's what happened. I developed strong feelings for this person but we never met in person (He lived across the country). I even contemplated moving back home for the rship. Feb 8, 2022 · That did not happen and now I am home with them both. I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. It happened over a few weeks and then it was Jul 9, 2021 · Photo by Alexis Fauvet on Unsplash. I know I’ve effed up here, I know that full well. They betrayed the person they love in the worst possible way and now their relationship is in turmoil. Nov 20, 2023 · My ex then admit that no one saw us, he made that up because he had a feeling something had happened. I know I should’ve been left but I’m trying to now. The next day he apologized and explained everything so i went Oct 5, 2016 · Somehow Joe knew. Your husband, the man you respect and love, has found out about a terrible mistake you made years ago. It was with an office You forgave him, but cant forget, so the only thing you can do is wait and try to improve the love. He's devastated, and I can't blame him. I have been happy with him and I wanted to spend my life with him. I hope you can let him go and be happy with someone who wants a perfect husband. Nov 15, 2015 · He kept wanting me to be back to normal in a week, and I couldn't do it. I haven’t told him that I cheated. I’m 38 and have been married for nine years, and soberly I have never considered cheating on my husband. I became even closer to the family. They had children and I didnt want to get in the way of that. By – regretscheating84 (Source – Reader Email) My affair lasted only two weeks. It was a mistake. He didn't know i had someone. Im sorry for your husband. I have always struggled with depression, and have been very overwhelmed with my life for the past year (we have no family nearby, issues with kids, etc. ” Through my work, I’ve witnessed individuals who were able to move beyond mistakes and build unshakable relationships. Results were zero, zip, nada. Life coach Sahar Andrade highlights why boundaries But I don’t want to divorce him I want to love him. 5 years later after therapy, I want to reach out to him for us to give another try. My husband and I have been separated a little over a year. You’re sitting in your living room, sipping your morning coffee and watching TV, when your world suddenly comes crashing down. A week before I cheated for the first time, I told my husband I wasn't really attracted to him anymore. After that he was always on edge because he got cheated on in his last relationship as well. I'm devastated. I woke up the morning naked beside him. He got softer with me, he helped me clean up and we talked. My ex found out, was devastated and disappointed on me. Feb 23, 2022 · Im 100% sure we didn't have sex, as my female friend reassured me that nothing happend between me and her brother and that her and me had only slept together. We were at a place where we couldn't even speak but now he has started to communicate with me. This can be thoroughly explored in one of our 4 days ago · There’s not really a great way to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him. I was angry and wanted to get back at him. I love him but quite honestly can’t stand him. I felt no remorse at all, because I felt so disconnected from my husband. You keep proving to him that you are selfish, first by cheating, then by lying and now by trying to persuade him to get back together. You might feel like your husband has been shutting you out, refusing to communicate. He is my best friend, other half, and a huge sense of security for me. This is my guide for how to get a guy back if you cheated on him but you still love him. We have been together for 14 years (married 6). I know I did something awful and disgusting, and when I couldn't take the guilt anymore I cut off my affair partner and confessed everything to my husband. 5 days ago · I really love him a lot and I’m unable to live without him. Special provisions were made for him because our country is closed during COVID out break . You say that you love him, but cheated on him twice. . He's even been trying to help me get the divorce without my ex being around. ⁠What to do when your boyfriend cheated but you want to stay with him? 1. me (42F) and my husband (44M) have been married for 18 years, we have two children ages 9 and 13, I will get right to the point, I cheated on my husband with a coworker Jun 17, 2013 · I am not going to lie to you, if you cheated on your ex and he broke up with you then getting him back is not going to be easy. I hate the fact that I went into it with wanting to the tell the whole truth. I wasn't ready, but I finally felt enough pressure, and against my judgement, I agreed. The uniqueness of our unity lost something so An anonymous woman posted on Reddit with the title: “I cheated on my husband with one of his friends and now I don’t know what to do, I want him back my life is terrible without him. So, what do you do when Jan 17, 2016 · I’ve always pushed him and taken the back seat. But of course the friendship between everybody is gone for good. If you tell him, he will be pissed and probably leave you given his history with cheating. I love him so fucking much though. Oct 14, 2011 · My husband is an artist and I am very proud of him. Jul 13, 2018 · It was very clear to me that I was not happy, I was leaving my marriage, I did not like him, I could not stand him, I did not want him to touch me, talk to me, anything. About a month ago, I got involved in an affair with someone I never expected: the husband (35M) of my boyfriend's cousin (40F). Aug 25, 2022 · I didn’t care for the person I cheated with, nor did I consider how it would make my husband feel; I only thought about myself and the fact that I wanted an excuse for a divorce. Even though he cheated and it broke my heart I still love him and think about him every day. My husband was having an emotional affair with my second cousin. I don't want to be that person. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. After what I have gone through and also my children, I would never cheat again. I took him back but trust and my feelings towards him were never the same. Quoting from another comment: I have hurt my partner enough. After 17 years he cheated. I don't know how I'll ever get over him or the cheating. That's all I have right now. You felt mortified and probably didn't want to accept what you did. Wanted to voice my experience on that. I think seeing my baby have the blanket snatched off him is what finally opened my eyes that this man doesn’t care about me and won’t care about the person we created as well. Aug 6, 2015 · I know from the get-go I'm already the villain here, and I understand that, but I'll try to explain the whole situation first: I do love my husband. You don't love him as much as you are trying to convince yourself and us you do. Journalling about potential patterns or Aug 9, 2023 · I thought about taking my own life to join him but my rabbi told me if I do that I won’t go to heaven so I’ll never see him again, which would defeat the whole purpose, so I was kind of screwed. Jul 30, 2022 · I’ve got some bad news for you. The last traw for him came when I stopped wanting him to touch me. * "He was abusive, controlling and expected me to quit my job to make a home for him. My husband knows and we have been trying to work through things but he tells me he doesn’t love me and wants to leave sometimes. Looking at the dates that were listed he discovered my affair about a month after it became physical. Communicate about your needs, concerns and fears to your partner. Love to see ya’ll getting so angry. I really wanted to tell him goodbye, but I was weak and I didn't want to hurt anyone. My affair partner Jul 13, 2023 · I (26F) recently made a terrible mistake that I deeply regret. Nobody that truly loved someone could do what I did. If he comes back he’s either desperate or doesn’t respect himself. A little backstory. I never planned to cheat on my first husband. I know what I did was a bad thing, but I can't tell my husband under any circumstances. That makes a huge Cheating on your partner is a serious breach of trust, and what you do next may determine the future of your relationship. I want to serve him and give him happiness. Jul 31, 2020 · You didn't mention your age but I can tell by your words you must be pretty young. I still do. The mother retired at the start of the pandemic, and the father (very important in his job) started to work home. I was informed that he had attempted suicide. If you’ve cheated and you and your partner decide to continue the relationship, it’s essential to know It is possible that your partner does love you, and it is possible for him to continue doing so. it was the cliche, corny love story. I’m a sinner, plain and simple. Bein Nov 19, 2023 · As the publication says, I cheated on my husband with a coworker, but I must give you more context about my current situation, my affair began in mid-2019 and was discovered Aug 25, 2022 · Sometimes love isn’t enough. he has stopped and tried his hardest to make it better but everytime i get angry i see red. Once everything started opening back up and the father had the go back to work and start travelling again, him and I realized how close we got during the I (26m) cheated on my husband (41m) during a small “break” after a huge argument. 6 months later, my ex took his life. How I could be so weak and selfish? He didn’t want to divorce for the kids sake. i could agree with you on maybe one mistake (not likely i would agree with cheating though). " My ex husband cheated on my 5 years ago and we got divorced 4 years ago. Put him first for once and give up. Mar 6, 2022 · I love your whole post, but speaking for myself, we fit into the whole thing where my partner could have attempted to take it to the grave. At the time, I was definitely in tunnel vision. May 25, 2021 · Though the assumption is that you confess to your partner when you’ve cheated, O’Reilly says that isn’t always the way to go. I called my husband the next morning. After he had the affair while we were engaged I had little trust in him and Oct 13, 2023 · When someone you love deeply betrays your trust, it’s like the world has been turned upside down. Basically I craved that physical time that I couldn’t have spent with my partner. Apr 29, 2011 · The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I started to hang out with him, and than after a few weeks I slept with him. He got physical with me for the first time and i had to leave him. I loved my Nov 19, 2023 · I did not threaten my husband that if we divorced I would take away his assets and time with our daughters, no, because of the translator this is misinterpreted, my husband actively sought lawyers and they all gave him the same answer. We met when we were 18, got engaged when we were 19 and got married when we were 20. I never told my husband but I committed to being faithful to him and I sought therapy. I suggested he try being with another person because it wouldn't make me upset. I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. So the past few months have been up and down, good and bad. Then you Just say to him: "Life is too short and so are you" . Well 2 days ago mike showed up at the house and saw my new boyfriend. But love is a very deep and complex emotion. I read through the first couple entries of his diary and it broke my heart. i wasn't attracted to him in the slightest but we did the do, he knew i Dec 26, 2023 · I took the chance because I want to be with him. It’s over. Even when taken our son into account - until he moves out there will still be 8-10 years left. he loves me but he is not in love with me. I still broke up with him bcs he did not deserve what i did with him. May 15, 2017 · I love my husband. It was the first time that we talked after him finding out about my affair. And I hope he divorces you after this, because life is also cruel, and so are you. You're in a relationship with a man (it sounds like) you love more than anything else and yet you’re thinking about leaving because I also know now that my partner’s character flaws would come back to haunt us later on, but I still think about that fleeting moment of solidarity every now and then. I love my husband but he ran out of love for me. But he did leave our bedroom and barely spoke to me for months. She had a child who I was friends with, and the two of them used that as an excuse to meet eachother. I thought I’d forgiven him, but it took me a long time. “Once you find out that your loved one has cheated, it’s difficult to get that warm and fuzzy feeling back,” says Dr. Mar 26, 2020 · A beautiful confident man was reduced to a broken child over night. Nov 11, 2019 · My (30/F)Husband (31/m) thinks I’ve have cheated on him in the past or likely will in the future. He confronted Greg and told Angela. My affair partner didn’t know, I never told him, my ex-husband did three weeks after I got discovered. Mar 31, 2023 · I cheated on him because I couldn’t fulfill my needs. So in love, we couldn't be without each other. I want to be a better person from now onwards regardless of whether our marriage survives or not. Jan 3, 2024 · He asked when I want him back. I thought i was done and my family didn’t want me to go back. Or telling my friends that I regret divorcing my Aug 31, 2023 · It sounds like the guy you cheated on him with moved on and you wanted your ex back bc you were hurt and lonely. Yes, having an affair wasn’t the most Feb 3, 2021 · My husband cheated on me and I don’t love him anymore - Should I leave my husband for cheating. I wanted to adopt a baby but they wouldn’t let me since my husband had passed away. we stopped 12 years ago and never looked back. They were very welcoming and never judged me for wanting to try to I had control over everything and it felt so good after always accepting someone else’s decisions that rarely leaned my way. I haven’t told him and not planning on doing it. He was angry at first, but then bought me flowers and said he had forgiven me. Our marriage has had plenty of ups & downs, especially during the recent few years. The day he chose to cheat on me is when he killed our marriage. Instead, she recommends first questioning Jan 17, 2024 · I cheated on my boyfriend a year ago, and he soon became my ex boyfriend as a result of that. It's natural to want to feel better and to want to get your life back to normal as soon as you possibly can. So fucking stupid I was such a coward. Either way, you’re still a terrible person. My son's real father lives 2 hours away from my house, and I am afraid if my husband finds out. sbiuhtc nkh oumi yjxl cdthul azt avvdr xzy mmuzz iqtd