Reddit teacher parent (hope you lose your license, bro) Teacher who tells parent who is also a teacher to read to her child. Teacher who refuses to make accommodations on student's 504 Plan and walks out of meeting. 10% of parents have a problem that they'll expect profressional and immediate solutions to, even if the response is "I don't know but I'm going to contact my head teacher and principal for advice and contact you again in 48 hours with what Ill do to remedy the problem. Remember that the parent is often hearing the same feedback from multiple teachers, so they are well aware of the issues already. Being an active parent is a tough road no matter what; being an active parent and an academic is hard too. I am teaching high school. Kids were running wild, the parents were delusional, the admin were certified clowns on power trips, some of the teachers were so far up admin’s asses they could see daylight, and non As an Indian kid that grew up in America, I find that my parent-teacher conferences usually end up pretty heated. Please read the rules before posting. I’m a first year teacher and a parent is filing a complaint against me. But, when I saw what it looked like when my co-teachers posted there it is just like an email, or parents have to log in special which I don't think they'll do if it's just for the newsletter. Miniature-sized prep periods pressurize teachers to take work home and do unpaid free labor outside of their contract hours. I had a helicopter parent get extremely aggressive and threatening when his daughter was given a B on her progress report. 1. Every daythen filed a complaint saying I wasn't contacting them enough. I’ve already looked at my schedule and see a handful of red flag parents that I suspect are coming in looking to defend their child against poor marks. For my daughter I do parent teacher only with classes she is doing poorly in or if the teacher expressed a need to talk to me, but she is also in high school so its a bit different at this point. I see him throwing it away untouched. Mom was pissed but Dad who wasn't a teacher was like Oh wait a I’m a new teacher and don’t even know what to do with this. I've only taught in Title I schools and every year I have 1-2 parents I can't even get a hold of. My family and another in that class went in Parents Are Feeling The Pressure To Spend Big on Holiday Gifts for Teachers. As a society we have bought into capitalism as a good thing, but in my very humble opinion we are seeing the failings of that system. Some parents feel that the best way to get teachers to do what they want is to be rude and intimidating. Teaching means your ego is at the door. Ive typically have 3-4 at a time. This teacher shared a few stories to Reddit, each anecdote becoming increasingly more ridiculous than the last. I am a 4th grade teacher at an Elementary School. I am a teacher, and he is also a teacher! OP we all turned out great. Parent complaints usually have more to do with the parent than you. The district attendance policy makes that impossible. I think what helped me to feel more relaxed about the parent-teacher conference in general is that his teacher started with sharing a few words about my son’s strengths in class, speaking to his personality and character. It was the same in all of his classes. We teachers had to proctor during lunch, so there was a teacher at the cafeteria's entrance with the list of students whose parents had prepaid. Here are their biggest red flags: “They’re your problem during school hours. Parenthood is exhausting. The teacher immediately launched into “so and so doesn’t put any effort in in class, etc etc. 22 votes, 21 comments. My personal long-term I have had forever, but different college and work emails rotate. Word gets around that I do it. Some parents will complain, at first it killed me, I felt like a failure, it still makes me very anxious. It might be cute to the parents when Timmy throws a tantrum at age 2, but if he's doing it at age 20 he's not going to be able to hold a job, and may end up getting in trouble with the law. A text is more effective anyways. How can you handle that? You'd have to manage another set of google groups. My experiences, despite the perks, also came with some negatives. Multiple students' parents have felt compelled to inform you, their kids' high school math teacher, that the only reason they had kids was for an additional welfare check. Parent/Teacher meetings are the venue for discussing this. Kids are staying home because parents think all busses have been canceled and not just one specific bus route. Whenever a parent asked, I would send them their login info and that video. ” Teachers of Reddit have united to tell of the most ridiculous complaints they have ever received from parents, including being angry that it rained on a school trip. #2 replied with: “You know what, that’s fine, that would be great, let’s just change his class, I agree, let’s just do that. this is my first year as a lead (and solo) teacher, and thus will be my first experience with parent teacher conferences. Right now it’s summer time and school isn’t in session, so I’m in charge of recreation which is ages 5-7. Go to Teachers r/Teachers • by blobbyboo. Being a parent makes you a worse teacher, simply because you have even less time and mental energy to devote to your classes. I made a video of myself explaining how to log in to check grades and missing work, and I show clearly and explicitly how to do it. This sums everything up. We plan on hosting a "family dinner" there so we can get a bigger turn out as well. If the child has an issue Teacher’s shouldn’t hoards those notes until parent teacher conference. But no one makes me write a SGO. We had met before (the teacher also ran a club my daughter was in during 1st grade), but there was nothing other than a "hello". I've got wind that a student's parent is unhappy and planning a complain on one of student's grade (a "C" at second grade) at science. One of the things I've had to train her on is to assert her rights as a teacher and professional. I was a few feet away. Also, you shouldn't allow PTA members to be able to see parents email addresses without explicit permission that you would share the email for that purpose. I had a parent at meet the teacher ask my age in a condensending way and my response was "old enough to teach your child and this isn't my first rodeo" . It was basically school sanctioned time where they would show up and scream at/blame teachers for their kids failure to do work. I worked in an affluent school. The idea of calling the parents in front of the student (and peers) for good behavior is genius! As a teacher in my own room 16 years later, I do assign homework, but it’s optional for the kids who want to practice outside of school hours. There are many things parents can teach at home. I went from loving most of my teachers to being afraid to interact with them. A million others have said this, but I want to teach and not babysit. The kid would get dropped off, then leave campus after his mom left. The parents who upset me the most are the ones who never respond. If you have a query about any part of school life, including exams, we are teachers, but we're not your Daughter had rocked up to lesson with one hand in a cast and told teacher she was unable to write. My 4th is a google account, but I dont count it as I just have it for drive and forward the email. Teachers/prosecutors should be able to levy harassment and disorderly conduct charges against parents every time for this type of shit as well as civil suits for monetary compensation for emotional distress when it is egregious. I’ve seen teachers, poor ones with decades of work history and it was a long process to remove them. Reddit Teachers: What are the best and worst interview questions you've asked/been asked? As a new teacher, I'd love a collection of some of the top and toughest interview questions for teachers. I’m so tired. It’s unrealistic work expectations and student behavior. You should send it to them directly. If you're part of a team of grade-level teachers, it's a beneficial to all of you to be a united front when it comes to difficult parents Newbie teacher here, currently replacing a teacher on medical leave. We earn a degree and go into debt to try to help students. You will get some, but with low income it's much lower involvement. He came into class all swagger and screams and threatening everyone. I’m going to try to keep this short because each time I try to type this out I Come learn, grow, and contribute with us. Have a fun conversation about anything that is on your mind. Parents are practically looking for an excuse to parent, and my call gives them ammo. This is a professional subreddit for people interested in special education, particularly: special education teachers, general education teachers, therapists, advocates, parents, and students. I was appalled at the label. I thought she is a teacher and she knows that overstep is not professional but she still did. I genuinely really love my job. If you want to post a positive message, we appreciate the thought, but we aren't your teachers. It was fine The parent who makes the appointment with you, confirms it with you, then fails to show up. true. No, I will not meet you on Zoom at 9:30pm. r/TeacherCrushes: A safe space to talk about your teacher crushes. Not a scheduled conference, but a phone call from a parent (who should not have had my home phone number), who angrily suggested that I needed to change the kid's grade in Web Design (a B-, I think) because it was screwing with his GPA and it would keep him out of Harvardand that, because he was paying more for his kid to go to the I teach low functioning students with Autism. "I am LIVID that not one single teacher has selected (student name) to receive an award for 8th grade Honors night! I think teachers are just naturally able to help their kids regardless of whether they are in the same school. When I dropped my first kid off at a financially struggling (didn’t know how severe the struggle was at first) small private school, I thought my job was done. You must be I'm disturbed that a child is allowed to physically assault another, physically touch a teacher, and then have the parent berate a co-worker and nothing is done. Teachers who are parents have an advantage when talking to other parents because they can commiserate on parenting. The parent who wants to make appointments at ridiculous hours. Edit: I realize now your question was not whether or not the teacher dated the parent, but rather slept with them, and while I guess I can't confirm that, I would call it a safe When my parents were kids, school never called home unless there was trouble. I also started a podcast on real stories about teaching and eduction. I do not have time in my day to call 2-3 parents. The first one was years ago when I first started teaching and I was initially terrified- however, the parent was shadowing their child all Our Principal was really getting upset at parents for randomly taking vacations and expecting "make up work" from teachers. When I asked her why, she told me it was all the politics. However, they are 12 month positions. " They can't read themselves and either don't know what to do to help or they don't want to help It's easy to blame teachers, but most of us do everything we can to get students to read. I feel the teachers and the parents started on the same team and now are just getting further and further apart in viewpoints. Yessss they’re so lovely! Any time the parents are African, Caribbbean, Middle Eastern, or Asian, they’re just such a dream to work with. As for my 4yo i go to parent teacher because he doesnt tell me what’s going on in class and his teacher goes more in depth with progress. So I A lot of parents didn't approach them in a constructive manner at all. Not always, but often enough that you need to watch for it. I was soooo nervous. Parents, please be a parent and don't be a terrible person. Student or Parent I wanted to come to this group and get some advice because who better than teachers to give advice about my situation that involves. " We made sure that the parents knew that this was just a meet and greet type thing and not lets get your child in trouble. Except for some families, you have to be careful, because a comment that an American parent would understand as being something truthful about the child that they cannot control or change, like “he has a little trouble staying focused at the end of the In the decade plus that I've been teaching, only 1 student ever signed permission for their parent to be in a meeting. Remember you aren’t a friend or a parent, you’re a professional educator and that should be especially clear to the kid. In the end, parent conferences are not only useless, they're antiquated as well. Parents should be facing repercussions to put pressure on them to parent. This phone call happened in 2006, and was at the behest of my cooperating teacher. Sorry for any formatting issues, I’m on mobile. Sometimes it can be annoying with certain parents messaging you all the time but its easier and more condensed than email and I enjoy knowing ahead of time if a kid is going to be out. We are here to share professional advice, bounce ideas off each other, share concerns, and advocate for our students. The kids in her class (not all gifted kids took the class every year) got study time, learned Age group depending, but be open minded and ready for it. This is my first year teaching at this school. Go to Teachers r/Teachers • by Feeling_Front_4183. I am in grad school to get my teaching license. I’m sure the policies change in different localities. I see what you all deal with and it seems so stressful. This child, on one disgusting occasion, ate his own feces. I will add this you are attracted to her and flirt, but it hasn't gone beyond that. "I taught virtually for three years during/after COVID. There is simply no reason to set aside extra time when parents have access to online gradebooks, direct messaging apps that promote parent teacher communication, email, newsletters, and phones with voicemail in every teacher's room. Other than the parent/teacher conference at the beginning of 2nd grade, we didn't talk during the 1st semester and it didn't occur to me that she would be available. I’m a teacher, and a parent. Otherwise, I find most teacher Parents are parading their mama and papa bear powers for all to see. Teacher: Well, to improve second language skills, you need to engage with a language. My parents went to a couple when I was really young and they quit because there really wasn't a point. " She had actually just completely blown off assignments. Parent: You know, we are actually Spanish mothertongue speakers. My son is in kindergarten and I found the parent-teacher conference to be both informative and a bit of a relief. She once had a child, in 3rd grade so was on the cusp of being tested for special needs, but basically was approached as being "slow" but no serious biological developmental issues. All teachers complained that any work completed was plagiarized. I frequently have AP Lit seniors turning in their work two weeks late and thinking it's just fine and dandy. So we are about to enter our first term parent-teacher interviews. My district (maybe state, not sure) requires that parent communication tools have specific archival abilities, so some websites/tools were off the table. Did they set up a parent-teacher meeting to discuss? No. The first thing you need to get out of your head is the idea of parent as client. In my son’s class they had APs, the school nurse, and teacher aides fill in for missing parents and the kids whose parents couldn’t make it also got to cuddle stuffed animals. This is how my son's 5th grade teacher handled his rude behavior early in the school year. edit subscriptions. WTF. Our district implemented a two-week late policy a few years ago because parents were complaining about teachers not accepting late work. At one of the schools I am doing my practicum at, they have struggling readers but not enough staff to help with reading interventions. At the conferences, he would berate the teachers and call the young, new teachers names and make misogynistic remarks about how all of us women teachers were So in this parent-teacher conference, we're all saying the same stuff and realizing oh this has been going on all year. I’ve already given glue sticks, pencils, dry erase markers, crayons, The friendlier part of Reddit. I have parents calling 4 schools to find out which one parent square was referring to. we do have paper evaluations to reference when talking to the parents, but what are some other things to mention? My first lot of parent teacher interviews were mid first term. ) Parents almost never see this side of their kids lives, and LOVE seeing candid snapshots of them at school. I guess what I'm saying is keep things in perspective and have a thick. He had some friends around a few days ago. View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. Teachers can be reported for child abuse for restraining a violent child, while a telling off is frequently labelled as emotional abuse. This new kid, a sixth grader, decides he doesn't want the lunch he brought from home. Now, this girl was in my reading class, and she was quickly developing a reputation of just not reading. Stay cool, professional and confident. Starting at 10 tonight we will be going dark in order to stop reddit from getting rid of third party apps, I grew up in a abusive family where my parents essentially neglected my emotional needs. I have so much respect for them. Mom asks what she should say to the teacher, and the post opened a discussion about needs, inequities, and how to respectfully advocate for your child. Principal who tells parents, "I tried to make this as simple as possible for you to understand. I teach foundation and the parents are pretty full on - although most were more interested in social and behaviour than academics. I noticed one of them had Age group depending, but be open minded and ready for it. Each teacher took a holiday and explained it through activities, videos, music, food etc. This strong parent messaging network really pays off if you can get everyone on board. Teaching is really a thankless job, you could go above and beyond and you wouldn't get a single thank you, but the minute you do something they perceive as wrong it's all guns at the ready! Teacher/parent dating I need to know if there are any male teachers on here and what you guys would think if one of your students mothers asked you out. my subreddits. That's why I have to take care of her. I'm a first year teacher (I taught last year too, but that's a whole different thing) and I love it. My district (maybe state, I took a huge pay cut to become a teacher because I am a parent. I’m one of the only teachers at my school who refused to send a list of missing assignments, but I have no regrets. " Just really unnecessary, and heartbreaking. If you are interested in becoming a teacher, consult a careers advisor or the Get Into Teaching website. I've worked with many really difficult kids, but I've never had an issue with a parent. Parents will try In my areas 1st year teachers can be have their contract not renewed for no cause no reason need be given. I never got the vibe my parents were exhausted at home, or that the ills of their job affected their parenting or our relationship in any way. Two nights of Parent-Teacher conferences and I saw a total of 29 parents (I have 100 students in my classes). I had a student that was always asleep when I walked into class. It's more or less just sort of frowned upon. She was an elementary teacher. Talking on WhatsApp or social media or texting is generally too personal IMO. Luckily our Read on for some things teachers on Reddit want parents to know. Teaching summer school in a portable, parent calls three times a day, somehow got the portable's extension to check up on her kid and berate us for not doing enough for their kid. I found my parents usually blaming the teacher at times for some of my bad Second year: had a student with very severe processing issues and very severe executive function problems whose mother was not only another special education teacher at my school, This is why there are shitty parents who act this way: it has been repeatedly proven to be an effective method of getting their way. My mother was a teacher although not in my school but she knew exactly what was expected in school so she was able to give me exactly the support I needed (and beyond) to get good grades and I was by far one of the best students in primary and middle school. social things, and send them to parents (through the parent communication system for tracking, and only if they signed a photo release form. Something is off with them or their life and we're easy targets. Teachers/School workers of Reddit, what was the worst conference you ever had with a parent? Archived post. The parent later apologized and explained that they were from England and school was just always separate from home. My mom used to it and then I asked an old teacher if i could go since i wanted experience. popular-all-users | Reddit teachers weighed in with phrases or behaviors that triggered an instant “uh-oh” reaction to parents’ comments. Tuff nut to crack. Her reaction was, “don’t”. . In my areas 1st year teachers can be have their contract not renewed for no cause no reason need be given. The spread of social media probably made it worse. Teacher dutifully tried to get her a laptop but couldn’t, on the fly came up with some activities she could do that didn’t involve writing; she continued to be disruptive to the point that teacher had to call for SLT to remove her. If a parent doesn't want to hear from the PTO - they should have the ability to unsubscribe. Calling the parent when negative behaviors happen is the norm. As a teacher, I’ve had two parents ask to observe class. It seemed to do the trick because teacher didn't tell us about it until parent-teacher conference (child wasn't present). We hadn't even scheduled a parent-teacher conference, but mom was late to pick up her girl and I decided to stay with her homeroom teacher to keep an eye on her while we waited. I had a parent go to my head teacher and tell them that I told them I can’t manage my class. This overstep is unacceptable and unprofessionally. No big changes. This was about double what my fellow teachers saw. I'm sorry this story isn't that interesting, but teachers aren't expressly forbidden or anything from dating parents. If a child actually needs help it should have been addressed via phone or email way before it’s time for parent teacher conferences. Spent 5 months building a relationship with him and his parents (lots of love and positivity and support from admin). Nobody wants her, not even her mom. He's not going to magically learn that tantrums aren't good when he hits a certain age, you as a parent have to start teaching him when he's little. His parents claimed that he was bored in all his classes. 2K votes, 6. If teachers made a difference we would be paid much more and have significantly better working conditions. Parent admitted the student / teacher fit was not good and student should be re-assigned to another class / teacher. Honestly The teacher immediately launched into “so and so doesn’t put any effort in in class, etc etc. Last week I emailed my 137 students cc'ing parents, individually, and reminded them of what I still need from them for progress reports. You could feel tension in the classroom when he walked in after being in the office. I'm a 14-year high school teacher and have seen the rapid decline. In the decade plus that I've been teaching, only 1 student ever signed permission for their parent to be in a meeting. Both are acceptable. You have to keep things in perspective. The parents who use it are who you'd expect and the ones who don't won't surprise you. One parent got hacked and the hacker sent an email (acting on her behalf) to all other parents email addresses asking for teacher gift payments to a digital account. " Teachers who blame everything on parents. Today, that same student loudly One teacher explained she has spent more time “putting out fires” in the classroom than actually teaching, and she's pointing the finger at her student's parents as the source of the problem. Maybe not the most outrageous interaction, but it came with a twist. I’ve seen It is so important that parents receive positive messages from their child’s teacher, because some parents of difficult kids only ever hear the bad, and they become frustrated and eventually give Some of the single parents I work with in Middle are the best teachers I've ever met. I'm not a teacher but I grew up with parents like this. Have some work samples of students to share with parents. Maybe mention they are missing an assignment, just out of concern, not anger. If a parent is freaking out about their kid, at least they care about their baby. It does have nice settings to avoid any messages reaching you outside school hours. Recess was fight after fight. Dealing with parents is the biggest source of anxiety and anger in my job. We both struggled to become financially comfortable/stable. So he made a new rule that teachers were not allowed to It might be cute to the parents when Timmy throws a tantrum at age 2, but if he's doing it at age 20 he's not going to be able to hold a job, and may end up getting in trouble with the law. When I was a kid, schools were open to engaging parents that showed up, but my teachers never met my parents outside of parent-teacher nights. I strongly encourage students to attend conference with the parents and about half of my conferences did include the student in the discussion along with the parents. In a very poor, mostly racial minority area. Hi Teachers, parent here, came across a troubling email from a teacher to another parent and my child’s name came up will not use real names for obvious reasons. There is no room to actually focus on teaching because lesson I'd recommend checking with your district before using a texting app. This past year I became a preschool teacher. Parents suck. He's This problem doesn’t require new laws, it just requires admin to stand up for teachers and be clear that abuse won’t be tolerated. Newbie teacher here, currently replacing a teacher on medical leave. Some of the single parents I work with in Middle are the best teachers I've ever met. I loved teaching public (8 years), but my stomach fills with stress acid if I ever think about trying to do that again. They’re relying on those unhealthy relationship Parents are the worst part of being a teacher. Teaching is exhausting. Except for some families, you have to be careful, because a comment that an American parent would understand as being something truthful about the child that they cannot control or change, like “he has a little trouble staying focused at the end of the Daycare teacher is overly concerned and won't listen Parents/guardians are any person who has substantial decision-making authority in a child's life. At that point I started writing referrals for all of those behaviors that in my mind had been kind of minor. Parents about their child's second language subject. Just last year we had a parent Back when I was a para, I worked with the school’s gifted teacher, and she ran a great program. I was wondering how do you all deal with parent complaints? Parent-teacher meetings are essential for fostering student success. Every person I Parent/Teacher meetings are the venue for discussing this. Parents and students do not have the right to dictate how you feel. Most importantly, they respect teachers. Establish communication norms at fall conferences, and your spring conferences will be worry-free. We are an early childhood education discussion forum for ECE teachers to share ideas, advice, questions, current events, and experiences with each other, other ECE related professionals, parents and carers. You’re not just protecting the kid but also teaching them about healthy boundaries with the various people they meet on their lives. Brand new & low karma accounts: please be aware your post may not show up and will need to be screened and manually approved. The parent knows her child has issues, she just wants to know her grades. Teacher parents of Reddit, when was your baby due and how did the timeframe work out for you?? My husband and I are trying to plan to expand our family and I’d love to hear your experiences, good and bad! How long was your maternity/paternity leave? Did you use disability insurance to get paid? My parents do not excuse my behavior at all, they support my teachers' decisions of punishment and I'm glad they do. Daughter had rocked up to lesson with one hand in a cast and told teacher she was unable to write. My gf's mom is a teacher. I have been a teacher now for 24 years. If I get voicemail, I’ll make sure to say it’s not an emergency situation (some parents may begin to freak out if they see a missed call from a teacher so this helps quell anxiety). Teaching is really a thankless job, you could go above and beyond and you wouldn't get a single thank you, but the minute you do something they perceive as wrong it's all guns at the ready! This meant parents felt less in awe of teachers and started becoming more arrogant as they "paid their salaries" via tax; and Smaller families means many have just one shot (via one child) to obtain "success". I don’t know how we can fix it on a larger scale. I was wondering what the teaching community feels about parent volunteers. Sometimes it As a teacher, I’ve had two parents ask to observe class. I met my fiancé because his parents teach at my school. You’ll read a lot of negative posts on this subreddit. In elementary school, parents volunteering in classrooms is pretty common, at least with the younger ones. Parents don't read at home, disparage reading as "boring" or "nerdy. That's how you get misbehaving children. Just last year we had a parent at my school go ask the way to the district to complain that my colleague showed a movie in class. 99. A handful of kids and parents have taken over the teaching environment. Talked to him directly about it, trying to make him see all sides. 9% of the time- it’s not a teacher issue, it’s a kid issue and I just want to make sure we are doing the right thing and supporting him and his teachers correctly. ” Yeah I know, I teach her too, but the problem here is that there are no grades entered in the online grade system and progress reports come out tomorrow. I put so much into that child and he made so much progress in my room - then she came to parent teacher conferences and told me how awful of a teacher I was in front of all my new parents. Surviving is far more important. One more thing is that my school is afraid of the parents. Next week is my first parent teacher conference and I wanted some tips and the do’s and dont’s on what to say/talk about We fed the whole staff 1 time (for an all day training day before school started) and this will be the 3rd time of feeding just teachers (once during fall parent teacher conferences, we had already arranged for a meal during teacher appreciation week, and this 3rd meal is during spring parent teacher conferences). I was 18 years old when my daughter was born. In my school the teachers move between classes, and the students stay. Awesome! The school had a cafeteria that the parents had to prepay. I chose Diwali and decorated my room in lights, had a fun writing/coloring activity and a child friendly video about the holiday. Fortunately, the language used didn't really match up with what we would expect from this Not me, but a friend of mine is a teacher, and she said that at a parent teacher conference there was a grandma that came, and during their session the grandma blurts out, "she's a rape baby, you know. Now I have a parent who I know has a history of being difficult, someone who has no problem verbally accosting anyone who disagrees with her kids dubious recollection of events, and refuses to believe even video evidence of her child being dishonest. Parents generally demanded that their kids behave because they were kicked out, otherwise; there were stakes. I work primary and have parents complain every week. When I went into my first parent-teacher conference, I was wearing a sweater that had a kind of fastener on the sleeves, and I had accidentally twisted it before I buttoned it. Whenever a kid didn't have an A in the class a lot of parents would berate the teachers, asking them why some kids got As and their child didn't. One of my core memories is my parents freaking out over a quiz I missed in 4th grade. Take pics of the kids doing fun things, esp. Many of these parents take away phones, check in with teachers once in awhile, ask their kids about missing assignments, provide PC is not a terrible way to break into the DOE if you don’t want to teach. Sometimes it's better just to deal with the habitual problems if it's minor enough. It’s shaping up to not be so great unless you are a I work primary and have parents complain every week. It's frustrating to read about how parents don't care, or have no options and willfully send their sick children to school. We didn't use it for much else so I stuck to just emailing and skipping the middle man. 2-3 calls a day. Plus, I think they have to work some of the breaks during the school year (but don’t quote me on that as I can’t for sure confirm). 582 votes, 401 comments. parent (29 and still get mistaken for 15). I’m not a teacher, I’m a parent. 30 Best Quotes for Parent-Teacher Meeting "Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire. New teachers, think twice about calling home. I have a five year old The parents who use it are who you'd expect and the ones who don't won't surprise you. All of them are somewhat direct, work incredibly hard, have seemingly endless compassion, and are organized. Feel free to suggest a list of things parents can work on with their child. What are your most ridiculous parent complaints? I’ll start: Have tattoos on my arms (they were literally tiny, and script This meant parents felt less in awe of teachers and started becoming more arrogant as they "paid their salaries" via tax; and Smaller families means many have just one shot (via one child) to obtain "success". I do NOT recommend going this route, but my students are taking action. From challenging academic results to accusations of bullying, some parents can be very intimidating or even aggressive. Yesterday at an interview I was asked, "What percentage of your student's academic success rests on you? 5. ” Yeah I know, I teach her too, but the problem here is that there are no grades entered in the online I commented this morning about what it's like to grow up with teacher parents. I absolutely love this idea! I’m a school based OT and have so many kiddos on my caseload who have sensory and/or behavioral related issues that leave their teachers in frustrated tears. Lol then the schools gave them Seesaw and expect us to check that too! I explicitly state at the beginning of every year that I will not respond to Seesaw messages regarding absences or admin school related matters at all nor do I monitor Seesaw messages yet they still message me because it’s easier using an app and the teacher in the year before me The teacher used it every day during reading time. Definitely have another staff member sitting with you during Parent/Teacher conferences. When a parent comes in complaining that a teacher I love it! I can use a lot of what I know from teaching when dealing with parents of ADHD kiddos, and I still get to feel like I'm helping people. In contrast, shit parents don’t respect teachers, they treat teachers like shit and readily escalate to admin. I said NO SUCH THING! Certain types of parents will twist It makes me feel that I have failed teaching them and it's unfair to other students who took the activities and got passing scores. Inspiring quotes can set a positive tone, promote collaboration, and highlight the importance of the teacher-parent partnership in guiding a child's education. Some districts have policies around parent communication, and some states have laws around it. Teachers are being fired for intervening and being sued for intervening just trying to help students. We called and emailed parent constantly, and if parent responded at all, she was hostile. Teaching is great. 1K comments. My advantage is that I am not biased by my experience with my own kids (not all teachers with kids are, but it isn't uncommon). A few parents didn't like how I graded a couple of their kids' essays and was inflexible about due dates. It's basically the exact opposite of that. Make sure to have sent lots of positive messages home in the early weeks of school so the first communication with a teacher is not negative. Teacher/parent quandry . Until relatively recent times, the school was viewed as the Parents are the reason I do not want to take the step to become a teacher from a paraprofessional in SPED. These parents are wrong! Teachers In a recent Reddit thread that asked teachers to share the most ridiculous things they've ever heard a parent say, thousands of educators gave us an inside look at the truly insane things Here are 28 of their entitled parent horror stories: 1. hey all! I'm a lead teacher in a two year old classroom. If you like the kids though, super worth it. At my own child's school they had a format to their interviews. It did make me a better teacher in that I have more empathy As a parent I read the parenting Reddit, and the differences in views are alarming at times. just a check in at the start of the year. He would be so soundly asleep that when I woke him up it took some time for him to figure out where he was. But being an active parent and working in general is almost impossible these days. I know how Reddit can be, so please be gentle if this is a horrible question. The ones I'm talking about are the ones who want to bail their kids out of I’ve noticed quite a few of my coworkers striking up relationships with parents outside the classroom, adding on jump to content. I had a parent that enrolled their child in our 100% VIRTUAL school, Not too long ago, we shared a viral Reddit thread in which teachers were asked about their most unforgettable parent-teacher conference, and they shared some serious, In ten years of teaching I have never dealt with a parent like the one I’m about to describe and I am just in awe of the disrespect and ignorance being directed at myself and my coworkers in Parents Are Feeling The Pressure To Spend Big on Holiday Gifts for Teachers. Parent teacher conferences should only ever occur when their is an issue that needs to be addressed. Doing these My hometown isn't exactly small, but there just doesn't seem to be much interaction between different groups of the population? I had my mother as a teacher in a subject for three years. Ask if there’s anything I should know as their teacher, parents tell me all kinds of things. My school is bilingual so each class has 2 main teachers, one of my co-teachers choses to respond at all hours and during weekends or vacations, but I don't and I haven't had parents complain. I'd recommend checking with your district before using a texting app. We had a parent who would call for parent conferences every single month (7th grade). I lost my wife of 24 years, 3 years ago to breast cancer. Talk about a kick in the groin. Speaking from firsthand experience, you can have the greatest parents in the world but still be an awful kid. The student then goes home and tells the parent that I was teaching about killing and about a religion that started with a J. Parents will try and use their children to live their ideal lives regardless of how it makes the child feel. Tonight, she was livid that she was unaware he was failing. A lot of parents are working 2 or 3 jobs just to keep a roof over their kids head. Instead, you're going to be trying to get PWNs back or get parents in for IEPs. I am 2 weeks into the job so still trying to get the hang of things. Before parents had to physically meet to gossip and complain about teachers. Hi, so my son is a student at the school I teach. If teachers made a difference, we wouldn’t be treated as badly as we are. Agreed, but I don’t think it’s an excuse to not parent. I was wondering how do you all deal with parent complaints? My son is in kindergarten and I found the parent-teacher conference to be both informative and a bit of a relief. Kids would plug in headphones and listen to a story being read as they followed along in a book. Very frustrating. I had parent teacher conferences tonight. Responding to Parent Emails yes, I did forget but why no follow up to me this AM? I’ve always responded quickly to Dedicated to open discussion about all things teaching. Such accusations can see teachers immediately removed from their jobs. We have our first parent teacher conference coming up and I wanted to get the teacher something. I'm also a parent not a teacher. I do, however, attend conferences, parent nights, etc and I have no issues texting teachers to ask clarifying questions. You'd see an angry parent marching into the school, that meant some kid was going to get dragged and walloped by their mom or dad right at school! Teachers used to be able to shut down shenanigans simply by saying Do I need to call home? These new parents nowadays could never, they are so punked out by their own kids, it's wild. Some do send emails that they obviously expect me to answer at 10 PM, but I Calling all teacher parents: moms, dads, step parents, Nanas, Papas, foster parents. As a first year, if you aren’t a parent, I’d suggest not telling parents how to parent their kids at home. "Your kid is still doing good, kinda quiet and reads a lot" "yeah that sure is my kid" My parents were very active in my education otherwise, parent teacher conferences just weren't really necessary for us. Two weeks before 8th grade promotion, parent emailed all teachers. Try to let the parent draw their own conclusion. There were many times I called him in tears about how difficult our daughter was being. I am sorry that happened to you and it should not have. Within two minutes, my emails were plenty of proof the student had been lying about "some professor" who was being "completely unreasonable. I got a teacher parent who did the same thing. When you email them about the missed appointment all you get is crickets. My wife is a first year teacher, so the parents are seeing what they can get away with on her. Why? Because I have a family that I spend time with. When I went There is nothing lewd or wrong with a teacher making sure a student knows how to use a prophylactic. Hi. If the parent asks for advice, encourage them to ask their kid everyday how school was, what they learned. Especially when that student is romantically involved with their son. All of them are somewhat direct, work incredibly hard, have seemingly endless compassion, and are My bad. Mail sent directly to mods instead of modmail will be ignored. We also host parent teacher conferences in the same community center once a Teaching summer school in a portable, parent calls three times a day, somehow got the portable's extension to check up on her kid and berate us for not doing enough for their kid. One of my teachers (not my favorite but she was one of great ones) had just told me I was making a big mistake. This is 8-9th grade. I imagine some of you do have off-spring of Welcome to teaching. Coming from software development, where I was expected to work 50 hours a week, with maybe 3 weeks of vacation I would take this with a pinch of salt. After 20 years of teaching and seeing admin give zero consequences for student behavior, I left teaching. Last semester, I had a guardian who was struggling to get set up on the parent portal, so I put her in touch with our tech guy TWICE to help her. Last week I kept one home because he was running a Most importantly, they respect teachers. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. In reality it’s a front for their lack of confidence in actual parenting skill. Logically this means after a year one non-renewal needs a “cause”. If a parent gets belligerent with a teacher, the teacher ends the Teachers/School workers of Reddit, what was the worst conference you ever had with a parent? Archived post. As a teacher, you have to make parents happy, your principal (boss) happy, the students happy. Edit: Now that some responses have come in and they seem to be leaning heavily towards parents being more important, I’ll provide full disclosure. However, Reddit and the internet, in general, are not the best places to get or give medical or legal advice. Her district has no formal policy against it. But then I get some asshole parent treat me like the scum of the earth the next day, and that more than cancels out the whole making a difference thing. 40 votes, 72 comments. This saves me time in the future when I need to contact parents. First, they explained that as an 8th-grade pre-algebra teacher, A mother comes into a Parent-Teacher conference and sees that her child has stellar behavior in class. Teacher parents who act like they know everything and tell you their credentials in email as you’re explaining how their kid copy and pasted an essay are awful. There's little need to tell the parent for the 10th time that Jimmy talks too much in class. I have a parent who never reads my notes, calls me back, and treats her son horribly. I avoid the teachers lounge so that I don’t hear a lot of negativity. If you can, offer what you will do to help the student in that area of improvement. Why is this not common practice with middle or high school? Do you think this would be a good idea? When parents and students know teachers are communicating with each other regularly, or can head off some of the more manipulative parents and students. (My kids are grown now and we have grandkids, and I spent most of my career in industry, where things are arguable even more difficult for parents (though the pay is often better). No summers off. My parents and the teacher ganged up on me and immediately eroded my trust in adults. I have an extremely flexible job and WANT to keep my kids home when they are sick. At my school we had one student whose parents didn’t have a car and couldn’t come View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. Welcome to teaching. Then I spent two days fielding texts and regrading. A lot of teachers use this place to vent, but there are many teachers that do enjoy their job and don’t feel the need to post about it here. Start with the basics. Parent: My child really struggles with Spanish, I don't know what to do. Why is this not common practice with middle or high school? Do you think this would be a good idea? 90% of parents will want to be talked at for 10 mins. But we're really starting to get big and problematic. They set up a brunch with the superintendent of the district (a guy 4-5 levels above my head) to discuss what was wrong with me. I'm exhausted all the time, but Im a first year teacher so that will get better. Give us your best tips and tricks (both personal and teaching related) for making the busy weeks/months easier. The first one was years ago when I first started teaching and I was initially terrified- however, the parent was shadowing their child all day as he was giving all his teachers issues. Her dad and I married and (predictably) divorced. Please be kind. Once parents learn that you can't be pushed around, they don't try it. Gostaríamos de exibir a descriçãoaqui, mas o site que você está não nos permite. It starts with baisc conversations, reading, ect. One teacher received a complaint after denying a parent's request to wake their child up with a phone call each morning. Tiger grandparent, thinks she should be able to teach her kid at home and have butted heads with me before for teaching her things that she can't help her kid when at home. I was. Get the parent on your side by telling them something they don't know and being supportive of the positive changes you see. A Reddit thread proves parents are worried about the cost of showing appreciation to all this year. Let's help each other thrive in busy seasons both personally and professionally. Despite all the immature, childish crap I do, I know your doing your job, you're doing the right thing and it's not your wrongdoing in any way shape or form that's the problem, you're simply the unlucky victim of a belligerent, arrogant moron to immature too In elementary school, parents volunteering in classrooms is pretty common, at least with the younger ones. Dedicated to open discussion about all things teaching. Ask a question or start a conversation about (almost) Second year teaching; private school. When parents can't parent because they have to work 2 or even 3 jobs. " This is a professional subreddit for people interested in special education, particularly: special education teachers, general education teachers, therapists, advocates, parents, and students. Well, a viral Reddit thread asked teachers to share their most memorable parent-teacher conference, and their responses will make you laugh, cringe, and get really, really Below, you’ll find strategies to help you with the most difficult parts of working with parents, so that you can focus on what matters most. Same parent sent over 200 messages in a month and never asked for information. Child of 2 high school teachers marrying a child of 2 high school teachers. I am needing feedback. Parent would refuse to discuss incidents when they picked them up, and then informed me they would need several hours to get home so I'd have to call after I was off the clock. mchgdvpz gsaks oyzlag yxgbks gjwmdu voidh drfi wdhybn txsd gnax